Saturday, July 11, 2009

Wedding Bell Blues

July 11 2009

1. If you have been or are married, tell us about your wedding. If you are not, tell us how would you want it to be.

Well... I didn't like my dress, I didn't like the hat, I didn't like my hair.
But my parents paid for it....
And because of that they also decided who were at the dinner.

When we went for photo's the flowershop we should have gone to was closed, so we had to stay in the rain. At a very nice spot in nature. So I didn't really mind.

When we arrived at the restaurant, the weddingcake was eaten by people who came in and ordered cake.
They mistook them for the weddingparty.

No wonder our marriage was a complete disaster. Except for the time I was pregnant and had little kids.

2. What age would you encourage your children to get married?

There's no age attached to that.

But there should be more that wanting to leave the house and start a family.

3. Who got married at the last wedding that you attended?

A friend who was at the delivery of one of the babies. She was a student midwife then.

It was a wedding with all women and men in black. Like a funeral.
I think they thought that to be of high standing or so. (No, she wasn't pregnant)

She didn't tell me, so we came there dressed colourful and festive.
I made even beautiful white with pink dresses for the girls. They were about 3 or 4 at the time.

4. Do you enjoy weddings and receptions?

I alsways enjoy celebrations.
But as I hardly know any other people, I almost never attend something like that.

5. Have you cried at a wedding?

Maybe my own.

6. Would you prefer a lavish event or a intimate ceremony?

It depends when I marry again and with whom.
To attent I love a huge wedding where there's lots to see.

7. Have you ever been in some one’s wedding party? If yes, do tell.

Yes. A long time ago.
It was an intimate wedding.

8. Does a wedding make you happy and sentimental or grouchy and skeptical?

When I see the fuzz people make about a wedding at TV, I wonder if they're aware there's something happening after the ceremony too. There's a whole life coming and I think it's silly to have a mortgage on the house and have a huge posh wedding.
They spend all their money to show off.

A wedding is about celebrating love, and it's not the money and the glamour that's central.
Often I see that people have lost all control.
They're nervous a year before and by the time the wedding takes place a complete wreck.
It's all about the guests.
In my eyes it should be about the couple.

9. Why do you think our divorce rate is so high?

I see couple who talk about nothing else than the wedding. When it's over they realize the person at the other side of the breakfast table is not the partner they imagined.

The way americans live also adds to the failure of marriages.
When a family doesn't spend their meals at their own home they miss important aspects of social life.
The best conversations are in the kitchen, during the preparation of meals and during meals and the washing up.
I also wonder whether the intense urge to be better than others makes people less content with what they have.
To have a good marriage you have to live in the present, be aware of the needs of your partner, be willing to invest time and energy and love, and be able to be happy with what you have

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  1. Loved your answer number 8

  2. True words: It's about the guests. It should be about the couple.

    Well done!


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