Saturday, December 20, 2008

Holiday Cheer

december 13 2008

Holiday Cheer

1. Does the holiday season stress you out? If yes, how do you cope?

Well, I try not to give it a chance to stress me out.
Showing my stress would mean that those who are autistic sense it and feel troubled, because they can't deal with the emotions.
Some people think autistic people are not aware of the emotions of others. Well, my kids are, they're just not able to deal with it.

How I cope?
I try to solve problems at the moment they arise and I try to prevent them.
That means being with my ears everywhere.
A peaceful conversation can end up in troubles when there's a little misunderstanding.
Someone can feel irritated when another person enters his space with terrible music, for instance.

Etc etc.

2. Are you ever so busy in December that you have to force yourself to chill?

Oh yes. But it's not limited to december.

3. Do you sleep well at this time of year?

I never sleep well.
When you ask if worrying interferes with my sleep: no.
I just sleep not well, because I'm the only one here who can stop certain problems. So I'm waking...

4. Have you ever taken a sleigh ride? If yes, tell us about it.

Not in one of those beautiful large sleighs.
But I've had my fun when I was little, and people who knew me when I was young still remember that 4 year old that had fun with the older boys sleighing down the steep slope of one of the streets near the house I grew up.
It's fun to hear them tell about me.

5. Do you live close to the parts of your family you spend the holidays with?

Well, people here don't travel as much as americans do.
My country is a little one.
But I consider the space between my family far enough not to go there.
Part is physical space, and part is psychological space.

When people tell me the special needs of my children are just a modern fling and they don't believe autism is something that really excists, I don't belong there.
I also hate it to have to deal with all the unwritten rules and regulations and the enormous amount of gossip.
I'm happy for my sister she has such wonderful well conditioned children. But stop bragging about them right in my face. My children aren't perfect, but I deserve at least a bit of respect for not putting them into institutions.

6. What will you have for Christmas dinner?

Nothing special.
The money put aside for it was spend to replace the stolen bicycle of one of the boys.
We just have to see what's fresh and affordable this week.

When we serve something our of the routine, the boys will freak out.
No way I want that at christmas.

But I think we'll have icecream for dessert.

7. Do you diet after the holidays?

I'm on a diet of chocolate now. LOL!

8. What’s the best part of the season for you?

Don't know yet.
I try to take each moment as well as possible, without looking back too much, and without looking to the future too much.
So the best moment might be something on TV, a friend who sends a card, the mailman with his smile and good wishes, or maybe the robin in front of my back door.

9. How many generations of your family get together during the holidays?

2. When it's three there will be a problem, on either side. LOL!

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