Thursday, November 6, 2008

Dona Nobis Pacem

november 6 2008

No. I'm not blogging about peace today with a wonderful graphic on top.
It's not about the graphic, not about getting extra visitors.

I don't care how many people read this and surf away to another blog. They forget that wonderful graphic within a minute and my message is already part of the past before the other site is fully loaded.

Oh, I've been as idealistic that I thought I had to shout out my message of peace to the world.
In fact I would do it all over again if I thought someone would want to hear it.

But people are so busy with their own lives, so fulfilled of their own opinions, of how good they are and their country is, that I'm just a single source of noise in the silent dessert.

So I've decided to bring my message to the world in my own simple way.

I educate my children to behave peacefully, and I teach them tolerance and solidarity.

The basis for peace is not the pointed gun, but understanding.

When you share your bread, you won't fight over it.

I've felt kind of lonely when my kids were at primary school, because I was about the only parent who told them not to hit another child back.

I taught them that revenge is one of those false feelings that only cost yourself a lot of energy. When feeling revenge and act on it, you lower yourself to someone you don't want to be.

In a way I'm lucky.
I live in a country where the army is not seen as something special.
We need it to defend our country. But in reality we're just so little that we're soon outnumbered, lol!
Working in the army is just a job, and a soldier is only a hero when he saves the life of another person with a huge risk if being killed himself.
We don't attach the prestige to the job like other countries do.

So in a way it's easy to say I'm against war completely.
Many people here agree.

Participating in the wars of others only costs us.
We don't have an economical advantage, on the contrary.
We don't have the culture of army wives and families.

It's important for me to explain our children the history of our country and why we have our own way of dealing with the army.

Our country was occupied during WW2.
People suffered badly.
The Germans killed so many people that many families suffered the death of family members.

Mistake bombings took away lives too.
5 family members were killed when the americans bombed our city by mistake.
I grew up between people trying to deal with that loss, between their memories, pain and traumas.


That was what I was taught.

My father was a silent man. Served in the British Royal Air Force as a very young man.
Only later I understood how he suffered from the feelings of having been part of the warmachine.
I've had long talks about it with him and his army chaplain who lived near us and who loved to come here and bless my children like he blessed me when I was little.

I want to know how my dad was in the army, or before.
But I can't find anything about him. All paperwork appears to be locked away in the british archives.

Because of WW2 my family never was completely at peace.
And in a way I'm still suffering the effects, because it has taken away part of my father.

What hurts me is that people try to disguise the effect of war by calling army men and women heros.
That people are proud to be fighters.

Well, I'd rather be a fighter for peace.

Dona Nobis Pacem.

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  1. very well said,peace from my blog to yours. . .

  2. Inspiring Post!

    Sending *Peace*Love*Light* to ALL!!

  3. I am against war, too. My late grandfather, who was a war veteran, had lots of sad stories about WW1 and WW2. A lot of people suffered and died painfully. There was food shortage and the family had to dig up root crops to eat boiled or grilled. My grandfather and his family survived the war but they were anti-war ever since.

  4. I think this is a powerful and wonderful statement to add to the movement!!

    Great job!!


  5. I grew up in Africa almost always on the fringe of war or some kind of violence. You can work through it, but it takes determined aware effort.

    I enjoyed your honesty, and laughed because I used the bread thing in my blog for Peace message too, in a similar message/way.

  6. Absolutely.
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  7. Great post, lots of food for thought. Each little voice counts!

  8. For a person who started out not having a lot to say on the subject, you ended up with one wonderful post. People ARE listening and reading, graphic or not graphic.
    Thank you for participating in your unique and powerful way. I feel for the loss of "part of your father."
    How poignant.

    Peace to you and yours,

  9. Thank you for these words. Peace to you and yours.


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