Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Will she send me to court?

august 12 2008

I was so very amazed that homeschooling was granted, that I didn't question the decision of the councilrepresentative, until I was at home.

Homeschooling is against the law here. Only parents with special religions are allowed to homeschool. They have to go to court to get matters arranged.

So the councilrepresentative couldn't have given permission to teach my autistic son myself, because she has to stick to the law herself.

I mailed her two days after the meeting that I couldn't agree with subscription to the former school, but because it is the law I would stick to that.
But I certainly couldn't agree with sending him to a school with kids that have such severe behavioral problems that they're a danger for others.
My son is autistic, and he shows no aggressive behaviour at home.
He doesn't belong at such a school. It'll worsen him, and as a parent I have to watch for his wellbeing.

Much to my surprise I've got a mail back stating that I had to agree otherwise she would bring me to court.

It took me quite a few days to write a statement with a very thourough motivation in which I said clearly:

I won't cooperate with sending him to that school.

After giving all my thoughts and objections I concluded:

Please transfer the subscription to the school with the auti-classes,
and when there's no place we should find a school for kids who are ill a long time.
There he can get teaching at home in a legal way.

So now I'm waiting for her letter stating that she'll send me to court.

Part of me is sure she can't.
I'm not refusing to send my autistic child to school.
I'm refusing to send my kid to a school that might cause harm.

Other part of me is afraid that she won't take matters as they are meant and that she will cause more problems than I can solve.

I haven't been able to sleep much the past week.
It's now 3 in the night. I'm wide awake.

It's a good feeling that the sporters in Bejing are now getting ready for a new day.

Life goes on.


  1. I'm sorry to hear about the school troubles. I've contemplated homeschooling my son, but haven't gotten to the point of frustration with the schools yet to make it necessary. I can't imagine what it would be like to have the option taken away from me. I hope everything works out for your son.

  2. Good luck with all of this. I can't imagine what you are dealing with!

  3. Many parents would just bow down to bureaucracy rather than fight for the best interest of their children. Good for you!

  4. Yes indeed, the web of beaurocracy can be very hard to fight against, but sometimes you just have to for the sake of your child. Good luck, I hope it works out OK for you :-)

  5. My thoughts are with you. We live in the USA and while it is legal here, states such as California are beginning to make it nearly impossible.

    Any time a government begins to impede your right to pursue your childrens' best interests, your government has gone too far. I speak of my own as well as yours.

  6. I think my first attempt to comment didn't appear to go through, so you can delete it ...

    My thoughts are with you during this & I hope it goes well for you. Any time a government impedes your ability to pursue your child's best interests, your government has gone too far. I speak of my own (USA) as well as yours.

  7. I'm sorry to hear about the school problems...thanks for sharing this.. I hope everything works out for your son.keep posting.


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