Friday, May 9, 2008

friday's feast

may 9 2008



Appetizer

When someone smiles at you, do you smile back?

Ofcourse!!
Unless it's a smile from one of the very few people I distrust.
In that case I either ignore the person, or I say: "Oh, Hello", with the sounds of: "Am I wearing your clothes?"

Soup

Describe the flooring in your home. Do you have carpet, hardwood, vinyl, a mix?

Vinyl tiles.
I really need new flooring. Those tiles are 15 years old.
They were bought at Ikea and I've never seen them again.
Such a pity, because I really need tiles.
We can't empty the room, and with tiles one can do one part and move on to the next day.
We've considered laminate, but the boys walk in too much sharp sand...one way or another.

Salad

Write a sentence with only 5 words, but all of the words have to start with the first letter of your first name.

Listen, Lovely Lame Laminate lovers!

Main Course

Do you know anyone whose life has been touched by adoption?

Oh yes, I have quite some friends who were either adopted themselves or have adopted children.

We also tried to adopt.
There weren't many children available then.

A friend was midwife in Africa, Swasiland, and one day a mother died, and her little girl survived.
Her father, who was chief of a tribe, didn't want her and told her to put her up for adoption.
She knew we had all the paperwork and everything else ready, so she called us and we all started the procedures.

It felt very strange that I knew where her father was, and I knew that in the same tribe some women weren't able to have children. They would have loved to give her a proper home.
So I told my friend to try and talk with the chief, tell him that the spirits have their own way of telling him that things need to be changed.
Maybe this girls was born as his daughter to teach him to change the laws in favor of the tribe and those who belang to the tribe. She was the daughter of a long line of chiefs, she couldn't be given away. There were women in his tribe, ready to feed her and help her become a proper chief's daughter.

Well, he accepted her after all. In a beautiful; ceremony, calling me her second mother.

Well, that's nice, but it took me a long time not to feel sad about this all.
I felt a bond with her, bridging the distance.

Because this went wrong in the eyes of the adoption agency, we were asked if we wanted a "medical problem in Haïti".
So another procedure started.
This time a lovely boy was expected.

But I got pregnant.

When I told it at the next meeting the woman closed the files with a bang..
That was it.
I was 40 and after that it isn't possible to adopt in our country.

Dessert

Name 2 blue things.

My lip care, the bright sky outside.


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6 comments:

  1. Wow... that story about adoption sure is touching!

    My feast is served here:
    Memories by Jenn

    Please drop by if you have the time. Thanks.

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  2. Great feast.

    mine is up. hit me back if you can.

    http://www.yourvmodel.com/2008/05/feast-one-hundred-ninety.html

    Happy FF!

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  3. Thank you for sharing your experience with adoption - I think it's terrible that they won't let you adopt in your country after age 40, despite the fact that there are so many children around the world that desperately need caring families.

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  4. Great feast! I'm having fun reading everyone's Salad. How interesting they all are.

    It's wonderful reading all the adoption stories.

    Come on over and feast with me.

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  5. What a touching adoption story and so unselfish... and that's exactly what a true mother is, totally unselfish!

    Have a great weekend and please drop by my feast if you can!

    Just Some Thoughts

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